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People Magazine

 

Advices you realize are true when is already late

Almost everything people say is useless and you just need to look them into the eyes and nod.

It takes years to filter out the bad advices from the good relevant one.

Out of generosity I’m sharing some of them.

 

Butterflies in the stomach

 

Love is a great feeling but that teenage hormone fueled addictive experience of butterflies in the stomach is not even near from what real love is.

As soon as you are mature enough to adjust your life to another person without the anxiety of physical contact, butterflies go away.

The longer you know someone the more you love that person and the more comfortable you feel.

The difference between sexual rush and love is gigantic and the only way you can learn it is experiencing it.

 

Chores

 

Most of us never did any home chores and if you did some, it was completely unwillingly.

Much sooner than you think, you’re going to be responsible for all of the chores at your own house and you will wish you know how to do them.

Because you didn’t paid attention when someone tried to teach you cook, as an adult you will find the majority of your sustenance coming from the frozen boxes that are prepared with a microwave and the ability to push 4.

 

Writing

 

I’m a writer so maybe I’m a little extra interested in people who know how to compose but, it is truly very important that as an adult you type in your native language better than an eleven year old kid.

It is also true that some schools still treat the subject of writing the way they did in 1950 not understanding that today you can’t function as a human without knowing how to use a computer.

The way you write reflects your brainpower.

You don’t have to be Hemingway but you need to learn to be concise and clear or it will be coming back to bite you.

 

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When you are at school 50% of what they teach you will be absolutely useless once you settle into your adult life.

Writing is one of those things that matters because in an online world most of the people who interact with you will only see that side of you.

No matter how smart or experienced you are, the majority of contacts are in the form of emails and texts.

 

Therapy

 

If you don’t face your feelings and emotions when you are a kid, it would be very hard to understand yourself as an adult.

When your teachers send you to the counselor you should take it as something good, it means you are a deep and complex person.

Going to the doctor about mental counseling shouldn’t be harder for you to accept than going to see a doctor about an allergy is.

It’s completely normal to have some mental issues and seek help.

Maybe is not that normal to write about them on your Facebook wall but that’s another issue.

 

 

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The Guardian

 

Nobody cares about you

Think one second about the guy that sits next to you at the office for 8 hours a day, five days a week and tell me, does he cares about you?

Humans are goddamned horrible at caring to one another.

This is never more ostensible than when we’re forced to talk.

When a friend or family member is down we use the same repetitive phrases somebody said to us in the past.

It is weird though that we already know that being the recipient of this generic kind of advices feels like crap but it’s like an automatism.

We can’t help, we see someone suffering and immediately activate the reservoir of stock replies that sound good but means nothing.

‘You have to believe in yourself’, ‘Everything happens for a reason’, ‘Try see the bright side’…

These help us as much as help pages on Windows.

The one I like the most is when a person trying to lose weight is told by her skinny friend ‘Well, you just have to eat less’

Just?

Don’t you think that person and the other 2.4 billion obese people on Earth have already tried that?

Obese people can give advice to obese people; addicts can give advice to addicts, no one else.

So if that’s not you, zip it.

Next time you hear the word ‘Just’ coming out of your mouth chew your tongue.

 

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Another one that I love is ‘You have to cheer up’

There is nothing worse for anyone struggling that knowing everyone is going to bug.

In addition to already feeling like crap, you now have to hide it from everyone. 

Next time you see someone down try asking how things are going and maybe the person would talk about the problem and that would help him.

The belief that a normal human should be happy every waking moment is killing us.

It trains us to constantly seek little pleasures like video games, porn, food, weed and prevent us to think.

We consider being normal a permanent state of breezy distraction and that explains failure.

Success depends only on your ability to delay gratification.

The cheerfulness we should have is not the happiness of a healthy animal but the supernatural happiness that comes from knowing what is important for you.

What really matters is to have a clear idea of what we want and set our mind to it.

Another indicator that somebody doesn’t care about you is the following ‘You miss a hundred percent of the shots you don’t take’.

Clever, accurate, but let me explain you something.

The ‘taking risks’ lifestyle probably work for you, blond, male, successful business owner who lives in a beautiful neighborhood two houses away from your real parents.

But for me, a brunette woman, adopted by people who live sixteen thousands miles away; trust me, I don’t want to take any more risks.

 

 

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