You will never understand other people
We live surrounded by misunderstandings.
It’s absolutely not tragic but we not only do not understand each other, we don’t even try.
Below I’ll give you some reasons.
We think understanding means supporting
Every time you say you want to understand the motives of a killer or a rapist you get reactions from all your friends as if you were trying to indulge the criminals.
Understanding a person is not the same as being sympathetic; it doesn’t mean you are convinced by them, it only means you are outstanding enough to analyze the reasons of their actions.
Awful people do not receive any benefit by being understood.
Understanding is not excusing, understanding is gaining knowledge about others so you can easily beat them.
You can’t fight what you don’t understand, in order to trick them you must become them.
Understanding people will helps you to get what you want from them but unfortunately you don’t have that ability.
We put in other people’s shoes
It is completely worthless to do it.
If we want to understand someone we don’t need to put in their shoes for a moment still being ourselves, we need to ask them about their lives and what a typical day for the other person is like.
If you really want to know how life is for someone else, you have to be able to picture you being them, not you in their shoes.
We categorize people
It is not very wise to indicate gender, political views or nationality as causing people behavior.
We are a little more complex than that and not just automatons who make most of their decisions based on programming.
We listen a lot that bad behaviors are driven by hate and good acts by love, as if that would explain anything.
Hate and love can come from motivations as diverse as fear, protection, passion, anger, affection.
We see life as a cartoon
When we try to understand people we apply the cartoon mentality.
We don’t see a bad president as a stupid human being with no talent to manage, we see him as a vile being intentionally trying to destroy the country.
Nobody wakes up in the morning and schemes about how they are going to destroy the country, at least not the one they command.
People who make mistakes, they do them because at that moment for some reason they think is the right thing to do, not because they want to be villains for the sake of evil.
Satan worshipers for example, do it because they think it will make them look cool.
the world must know the truth!
How to judge others correctly
We constantly judge people by meaningless things and that is not appropriate.
Below we give you the proper elements you need to ponder when criticizing others.
We’ve all felt that satisfying superiority that comes from seeing a stranger doing a crappy job.
When we see a cute guy working at McDonald’s we immediately assume he’s uneducated.
It never occurs to us that he may be intentionally working there to become a manager or that this isn’t his only job, instead we mock because it makes us feel better about where we are in life.
Late sleepers are lazy and unproductive.
The reason for someone to stay up late every night can be writing articles, partying, playing video games or simply insomnia.
But it doesn’t matter the reason, if you stay up late every night you are unreliable.
Night people are immature, real adults start their day when the local businesses open and go to bed when late night talk shows are over.
If someone doesn’t have a Mac we of course can assure he’s weird.
And it’s the same with video game consoles.
If you play an Xbox of course you are not a rational person worth to have a conversation, unless you are a woman.
Pretty much everything you buy tells something about your personality.
TVs, phones, monitors and speakers has different brands and each of them reflects how you are as a human being.
If you are not able to see what other people use and you don’t have enough material to judge them by you can also take a look on the next facet.
Almost as important as what you get is where do you get it from.
Either if you like what someone is wearing or you thing his home furniture is classy, the crucial thing to know is where he bought the stuff before judging correctly.
The price is also important.
If you buy something in a second hand store because is cheaper, you are a swine; but if you got it from the same store at a hyper expensive price because it is an antique you are really cool.
Entertainment is very serious.
A large part of our personality is invested in entertainment, and when someone insults our taste in it, they are directly insulting us as humans on an intimately personal level.
But if you really need to correctly judge others, start up a conversation about comedy.
Specifically, say on a public forum that you think Dane Cook is funny or that Jerry Seinfeld isn’t.
There you will have material enough to confirm if someone is stupid.
the world must know the truth!