You will never understand other people
We live surrounded by misunderstandings.
It’s absolutely not tragic but we not only do not understand each other, we don’t even try.
Below I’ll give you some reasons.
We think understanding means supporting
Every time you say you want to understand the motives of a killer or a rapist you get reactions from all your friends as if you were trying to indulge the criminals.
Understanding a person is not the same as being sympathetic; it doesn’t mean you are convinced by them, it only means you are outstanding enough to analyze the reasons of their actions.
Awful people do not receive any benefit by being understood.
Understanding is not excusing, understanding is gaining knowledge about others so you can easily beat them.
You can’t fight what you don’t understand, in order to trick them you must become them.
Understanding people will helps you to get what you want from them but unfortunately you don’t have that ability.
We put in other people’s shoes
It is completely worthless to do it.
If we want to understand someone we don’t need to put in their shoes for a moment still being ourselves, we need to ask them about their lives and what a typical day for the other person is like.
If you really want to know how life is for someone else, you have to be able to picture you being them, not you in their shoes.
We categorize people
It is not very wise to indicate gender, political views or nationality as causing people behavior.
We are a little more complex than that and not just automatons who make most of their decisions based on programming.
We listen a lot that bad behaviors are driven by hate and good acts by love, as if that would explain anything.
Hate and love can come from motivations as diverse as fear, protection, passion, anger, affection.
We see life as a cartoon
When we try to understand people we apply the cartoon mentality.
We don’t see a bad president as a stupid human being with no talent to manage, we see him as a vile being intentionally trying to destroy the country.
Nobody wakes up in the morning and schemes about how they are going to destroy the country, at least not the one they command.
People who make mistakes, they do them because at that moment for some reason they think is the right thing to do, not because they want to be villains for the sake of evil.
Satan worshipers for example, do it because they think it will make them look cool.
the world must know the truth!