Advices are always wrong
When someone is sad we have some repetitive advices we give to them that are absolutely useless.
We just say them because sound smart and somebody said them to us before where we were in that situation.
Deep inside we know they do no better but we just can’t help but repeat them.
I’m giving you some examples in this article so please, next time you feel the urge to say something stupid, think for a minute.
Speak your feelings
Since we are little kids, people continuously teach us to speak our feelings as if it was something good.
Now think, who is the most annoying contact you have on Facebook? Who is the most hated person at work?
You got it right. The one who speak out his feelings.
Trust me; nobody is ever going to know that you have a problem if you don’t let them know.
So what you really need is just to toughen up, look to other people with superiority right in their eyes and let her know that you are fine.
Not also is annoying to be the one who speak feelings out but is also worthless.
Nobody is ever going to care about your feelings, people may pretend they do but because of an ulterior objective.
Growing up means finding out people doesn’t care about each other.
The past is not important
‘What happened happened and you can’t change any of that so forget about the past and move forward with your life’
Life basics is to learn how to avoid what you don’t like and do more of what you do like.
It’s not a good idea to forget what made you feel happy and what made you feel bad.
Enjoyment, pleasure, great experiences are what make you a better person.
Most of the time, when someone tells you to ‘put all that behind’ is because they are about to manipulate you.
Live every day as the last
What we should do is living today being productive so tomorrow we can look back and be proud.
Then the day after tomorrow we should be even better and the next one better, and keep growing.
It’s completely right to enjoy the moment you are living, but people who spend all of their time living in the present they have a name… they’re children.
And that’s exactly why they have other people to take care of them.
Fight for what you believe
Do you understand how dangerous this advice is?
The Ku Klux Klan fight for what they believe in.
Please, we need to understand that not fighting for what we believe is sometimes a great idea.
Most of the things we believe are wrong anyway.
the world must know the truth!
You shouldn’t be proud of yourself
These days we find people that feel a weird sense of superiority based on listening to some music band or following some underground comedian.
If you are proud of yourself for one of the following reasons, please stop.
Not liking popular stuff
Some people think proclaiming that Justin Bieber sucks is the most daring opinion they can have.
There’s no reason to be proud for not liking popular things, whether they are great or not.
Except in China and North Korea, everything popular has criticism and lot of people doesn’t like it so your opinion doesn’t put you in an elite but in the majority.
Is not that you should feel bad about hating Katy Perry or Facebook, those are valid opinions but there’s just no reason to be proud of them.
It’s very immature thinking that you are an advanced observant person because you see the negative side of everything.
Someone who sees the negative side of life is destructive, not cool.
Observant, smart people find out more about everything in life, both good and bad, because life is complex.
People pride themselves on being cynical because they think it makes them smart and sharp but being skeptical leads to lack of trust and that makes you hateful.
Not being surprised
Some people feel a sense of superiority by not getting shocked when visualizing a violent video or a very sad scene in a movie.
If you watch a kid being beaten with the same attitude you eat breakfast every morning, probably you are not a wonderful person but a selfish self-centered one.
Sometimes people get offended because what you write hit a nerve or because you say something difficult to hear but important.
It is not hard to offend people, it doesn’t take any skill.
If you say something truthful and important, be proud of that, you should be proud of doing the right thing and not of how many people it upsets.
Being part of a group
This one is hard to understand.
Why in a million years going along with peers is something to be proud of.
There is no logical reason for an individual to have a superior attitude just by walking surrounded of friends.
We all do that, everyone around you does that, it’s not a particularly outstanding virtue to brag about, is just normal.
Sometimes doing the right thing is doing what the majority is doing.
I’m not saying that these points are bad things at all but you clearly do not deserve a medal for them.
If you really want to feel proud of yourself go out and help people out.
the world must know the truth!